The stoic, unfeeling little hero in me gets TWO FOR FLINCHING.Guys are terrified or being called gay, because they don't really understand it, and are also terrified of being called feminine.
GUYS AREN'T SUPPOSED TO: be sweet, weak, or vulnerable. They should not cry, display emotion, or lose control.
GUYS ARE SUPPOSED TO: think they're strong, think they're independent, think they're masculine. They are encouraged to "act like a man," "fight it out," and "toughen up."
IF YOU SHOW YOUR FEELINGS, YOU'RE A FAG.
REJECT ALL THINGS CONSIDERED FEMININE.
GUYS ARE SUPPOSED TO HAVE SEX PREMATURELY.
REJECT ALL THINGS CONSIDERED FEMININE.
GUYS ARE SUPPOSED TO HAVE SEX PREMATURELY.
The unwritten BOY CODE goes something like this:
1. Do not express your whole wide range of emotions. Keep your emotional pendulum as still as possible.
2. Although you should try, you will never fulfill your dreams or destiny alone.
3. There is a very narrow band of acceptable male and masculine behavior. It is not written or published, and you'll just know when your behavior is unacceptable.
4. All attempts to break free from the strictures and stereotypes of acceptable masculine behavior will be met with teasing, shaming, and public ridicule.
5. DO NOT BE THE REAL BOY THAT YOU ARE. HE IS INCOMPLETE.
6. You should be concerned about your fitness and the prowess of your body.
7. Boys can be a bully, be violent, or abuse drugs or alcohol as long as they maintain a cool, impenetrable veneer.
8. When the time comes, boys should sacrifice what is genuinely loving, caring, and affectionate, in order to be a man.
9. You will never amount to much of anything if you cry in front of others.
10. To protect your vulnerability, learn to cruelly tease, bully, and fight with others; exhibit physical strength and force, by any means possible, over other boys.
BE ROUGH.
BE TOUGH.
DON'T CRY.
DON'T BE SAD.
BE TOUGH.
DON'T CRY.
DON'T BE SAD.
